Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Heartaches and Warfares


Wednesday 16th Dec 2009, 8:08pm, Singapore office

Dear Brother,

This is a letter about how to fight and how to win. It's also about how to lose and how to give up. It's an important lesson in life I wish someone had share it with me.

1. How to FIGHT

To do this, you have to KNOW what you want, and what you deserve. This is a very important starting point. Because once you know what you cant compromise, then you won't.

You are a good boy. And you have to know you deserve to have the best in life. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be recognized for what you have done. I can't tell you what you want, because it's entirely yours.

Then fight. When you are given less than what you deserve, or when they force you to do what you do not wish to do, FIGHT. Use words and tacts, of course. Every battle can be won the diplomatic ways. Go through all people you know and can maneuver. Go through all sources and possibilities. Analyze your strength, and weaknesses. Bring out the pros and cons and why you should get what you want and it's a win win for all. Be there. Be persistent. Be firm. Be true to your will.

Sometimes you will Win.

2. How to lose

Most of the time, you will lose. In work or in life. Sometimes no matter how hard you find, the person you want will never look at you the same way you wish for. Sometimes no matter how hard you work, no one will recognize what you have done. Sometimes, no one cares about what you want.

Then, learn to give up. As young guys in the twenties, sometimes our ego is bigger than ourselves. Sometimes our hope and idealistic faith is bigger than the cynical facts of life. Most of the time you cant stand losing. You MUST learn to let go. Please.

I should know. I got hang over about a girl for 5 years. I fought day in and day out in a dead end job for 6 months. Until now I'm still forever struggling with my hope to be whole, and happy. I wish for once I could learn to lose.

The fact is, it's harder to lose than to win. But you have to get through it. Each failure makes you stronger. Each failure force you to learn to stand up. Each failure makes you into a man you are and will be. And it only happens if you let it go, throw in a towel, and move on with new possibilities.

3. Summary

You are a good boy. You deserve to be loved, and you deserve the very best in life. Never settle for less than that. Fight for what you truly believe in. I wish I can be there to help you, but if I might not be, KNOW that you CAN win.

But when you cant, know it when you cant. And just let it go and move on altogether.

In life, there will always be heartaches. There will always be warfares. At the end of the day, be happy with what you do. In the end, all the steps that mattered are the ones you take all by yourself.

No matter how lonesome that might sound.

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